Sometimes when I sit down to brainstorm an editorial calendar for the month, it can be pretty daunting. I am ambitious and want to fill most of the holes on my calendar page with wonderful, meaningful content. I have "blog worthy" adventures planned that likely won't happen. There are DIYs jotted down, brainstorms for potential outfits to photograph, and even a recipe or two thrown in. Along with all the other "life" tidbits I like to think that maybe, just maybe people like reading about. When the month starts off, I'm like "Yeah, I got this!" In my head, I definitely have the time, energy, and drive to whip out post after post, spread it all across social media, and leave thoughtful comments on others' blogs to make new friends. In reality, however, that's not usually what happens.
Every day, I scroll through my Bloglovin' feed and often wonder how other bloggers seem to "have it all together" and if I will ever be one of those types of bloggers. Each post is published bright and early in the morning so it can receive maximum amounts of attention throughout the day, while I am over here at 9pm getting "today's" post written and have not even given tomorrow's a thought, though my trusty calendar tells me what's supposed to be up. Don't even get me started on the photos of pretty flower bouquets, perfectly staged work spaces with that signature cup of coffee at arm's reach, and pristinely organized homes that have just the right amount of eclectic-ness to them. I love all of these photos and they truly make me happy to see ordinary parts of life looking so beautiful, but the reality is that is not what my day to day life looks like. And then I wonder if I should feel sad about it.
Before this turns into a rambling post, let me just say this: I love blogging, I really do. It has been such a blessing in my life and a fun hobby for me to do in my spare time. For a hobby, it takes up a lot of my time, actually. It has been a great creative outlet that has tremendously challenged me in different ways. I've met wonderful people that I consider to be my closest friends and that sometimes know more about me than my "real-life" friends. I am constantly inspired by the people or things I read and it has encouraged me to strive to be my best self. The blog world is a very rewarding community to be a part of and is one that I am not sure I will ever want to remove myself from.
Though with it's many great qualities, there are definitely a few that are not so pretty: jealousy, comparison, and the need to be (or at least appear to be) perfect. I know that we have all felt these at one point or another while reading someone's blog. Let's be honest. Her blog design is so perfect. Why doesn't mine look like that? Wow, she's going on another trip?? Must be nice. I would love to be able to afford to have my house look like hers. And how is it so clean? I wish I had her closet and her body. She doesn't know how lucky she is. How does she have so many followers? Aren't I just as good as her? And so on and so forth.
I am sure I am not alone in this and that this is something that many of you fellow bloggers or simply blog readers can relate to. It is awful to feel this way towards other people or about your own life, when you should be celebrating their successes and being thankful for your own. I can't help but think about some of these things when I sit down to write a new post or plan future posts. Along with that, it is really interesting how blogging has mostly become a place of "planned" out things or sponsored things with the hopes of somehow gaining major success, instead of just writing from the heart when you feel moved to do so. In the blog world, what even is success? Is it x amount of followers? Is it loads of comments on each post? Is it free, expensive things from companies? Or being paid to write posts? Is it being the "star" of blogging events?
I will not pretend that I have never been tempted by these very same things or have worked towards some of these things. I have and, really, I probably continue to do so simply because it is fun for me. I am not under the illusion that my blog will somehow "make it big" and will be my biggest source of income. Sure, that would be nice, but that's not likely to happen and not even necessarily what I want (although I will take all the free dresses people want to give me, let's be real).
I guess, what I am trying to say with all of these thoughts is this: bloggers are people, and people are not perfect. There is also no need to pretend to be perfect all of the time. Life is messy, people are messy. What does matter, though, is your heart and being genuine and authentic. That is what matters. The rest is extra. Icing on the cake.
What are your thoughts about blogging and perfection? Do you ever get bummed out by the competition, jealousy, or comparison?
As a last little note, I want to mention that I am not hating on any types of bloggers. Everyone should and can just do their thing. I just want to add a few thoughts into the mix about how we, as bloggers and people, shouldn't feel pressure to be better than anyone but ourselves and should do our best to lift each other up <3